Much like any other sexual sex, oral sex takes time to understand and learn. What seems disgusting at first can lead to great pleasures.

№1 Getting to know his taste

I am well aware that skin tastes similar, but there are still slight differences, especially if you give him oral sex during different times. I leave it up to you if you spit or swallow. What is a definite must for oral sex is intimate hygiene. But most guys are like us girls. They do their best to smell good, and some of them share the same insecurities we have. I heard it more than once that guys spiced their flavor up with mouthwash between their balls and anus.

№2 Building trust and exploring the sexual variety

Oral sex isn’t just sexual but also a trust-building exercise. As it turns out sexually satisfied couples both give and receive more oral sex than unsatisfied couples. Oral favors fall in the category of exploring sexual variety, too. Unlike most of us think (or I thought for a long time) knowing what to expect isn’t a turn-on. Variety keeps the fire burning:

Compared to women who orgasmed less frequently, women who orgasmed more frequently were more likely to: receive more oral sex, have longer duration of last sex, be more satisfied with their relationship, ask for what they want in bed, praise their partner for something they did in bed, call/email to tease about doing something sexual, wear sexy lingerie, try new sexual positions, anal stimulation, act out fantasies, incorporate sexy talk, and express love during sex. Women were more likely to orgasm if their last sexual encounter included deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and/or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse. We consider sociocultural and evolutionary explanations for these orgasm gaps. The results suggest a variety of behaviors couples can try to increase orgasm frequency.

№3 The gift of giving

Love is about giving. If you are mature enough, you receive more pleasure from giving than you are taking. I consider most sexual acts of giving way more powerful than the acts of receiving. Yes, it’s great to receive, but true love derives from giving and not from taking.

№4 A act of power

Ultimately, giving pleasure is an act of power. Once you give your partner pleasure, you are in charge. Yes, he sits in the driver’s seat, but you hit the pedals. You decide how fast or slow you go and on which level you engage with him. Do you take him fully in? Do you use your hands for support? All those decisions are up to you. Surprise your partner with taking the lead and being unapologetically sexy.

Giving blowjobs can be super fun, both for you and for your partner. I did write this to give you a little perspective. Not too long ago, I was one of the girls who felt sick by the idea of getting on her knees and opening her mouth just so that he could get off. But with time came wisdom. Oral sex is very much part of the sexual repertoire. It does depend a lot on the partner you are with. Great guys don’t take more than they give. So, you could favor them for that.